Integrative Resources for the Grief Journey
As a grief therapist and social work professor, I believe that healing happens when we bring our loss out of the shadows and into the light of community. This blog offers therapeutic insights, evidence-based frameworks like the Dual Process Model, and personal reflections on navigating life after loss. Whether you are seeking support for suicide loss, terminal illness, or the "quiet" grief of everyday milestones, you’ll find a supportive container here.
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What to Expect in Grief Therapy After Suicide Loss
Considering grief therapy after losing someone to suicide? Learn what to expect in your first sessions, how therapy can help with guilt, trauma, and unanswered questions, and why you don't need to have the right words, or all the answers, before seeking support.
When Grief Isn’t Recognized: Understanding Disenfranchised Grief
Sometimes the hardest part of grief isn't only the loss; it's feeling like other people don't understand why you're grieving. Learn what disenfranchised grief is, which losses may go unrecognized, and how to find support when the people around you don't understand what you've lost.
The Guilt After an Overdose Death: Understanding the “What Ifs” and Self-Blame
After an overdose death, the mind can become consumed by “what ifs.” Learn why guilt and self-blame can become such powerful parts of overdose grief, and how to begin separating the pain of wishing things had been different from the belief that you were responsible for making them different.
Grieving the Life You Thought You’d Have: When the Future You Imagined Changes
Sometimes we grieve not only what we've lost, but the future we thought we'd have. Explore why changed plans, lost dreams, and unrealized possibilities can bring real grief, and how to make room for a future you didn't plan without dismissing the one you wanted.
Anticipatory Grief: What It Is and Why You Can Grieve Before Someone Dies
Anticipatory grief can begin before someone dies, bringing sadness, anxiety, guilt, and grief for changes that are already happening. Learn what anticipatory grief can feel like, why it doesn't mean you've given up hope, and how to stay connected to the present when you know your time together may be limited.
Happy 14th Birthday Rocky: Holding Space for Our Gratitude and Our Fear
A personal reflection on my beloved Rocky turning 14.
Grief From Afar: When You’re Far From Home and Can’t Be There
Grief can cross borders. When loss or crisis happens far away, distance can bring feelings of helplessness, guilt, and disconnection. Explore what it means to grieve from afar, and how to stay connected to the people, places, and communities that matter when you can't physically be there.
Grief After a Sudden Death: When You Didn't Have Time to Prepare
When someone dies suddenly, there may be no time to prepare, say goodbye, or adjust to the reality of the loss. Grief after a sudden death can bring shock, guilt, anger, disbelief, and intrusive thoughts. Learn why sudden loss can feel different and when additional support may help.
Can You Grieve a Loss That Didn't Involve Death? Understanding Non-Death Loss
Grief isn't limited to death. Divorce, estrangement, career changes, health changes, and the loss of an imagined future can all bring real grief. Learn why non-death losses deserve to be acknowledged and supported.
Why Am I So Angry After Someone Died? Understanding Anger in Grief
Why am I so angry after someone died? Learn why anger is a common part of grief, who we may feel angry toward, and how to make space for anger after loss.
Questions to Ask a Grief Therapist Before You Book
Not sure how to tell if a grief therapist is the right fit? Here are the questions worth asking before you book, and what to listen for in the answers.
Why Do I Feel Guilty After Someone Dies?
After someone dies, it's common to replay conversations, question decisions, and wonder if you could have done something differently. If you're carrying guilt after a loss, you're not alone. Learn why guilt is such a common part of grief, how to distinguish regret from responsibility, and why feeling guilty isn't the same as being responsible.
What to Expect in Grief Therapy After an Overdose Death
Wondering what grief therapy actually looks like after losing someone to overdose? Here's what to expect in the first sessions, and why this kind of loss deserves specialized care.
Grief Brain: Why You Can't Think Clearly After a Loss
Have you been feeling forgetful, distracted, or mentally foggy since your loss? Many people experience what they call “grief brain”: difficulty concentrating, remembering things, making decisions, and managing everyday tasks. Learn why grief can affect the way you think and why a foggy mind doesn't mean you're failing.
Why Grief Feels So Physical: Understanding the Physical Symptoms of Grief
Grief doesn't only affect your emotions; it can affect your body, too. Exhaustion, sleep changes, appetite changes, headaches, muscle tension, and difficulty concentrating are all experiences many people encounter after a loss. Learn why grief can feel so physical and how to care for yourself while your body adjusts to a world that has changed.
Why Do I Feel Like I'm Back at the Beginning of My Grief?
Have you ever thought your grief was getting better, only to feel overwhelmed all over again? Many people worry they're "back at the beginning" after a difficult day, but grief doesn't follow a straight path. Learn why grief can feel unpredictable, and why those painful moments don't mean you've lost the progress you've made.
The Silence After the Sympathy Cards: When Friends Stop Checking In After a Loss
Have you ever noticed that the support after a loss slowly begins to fade? Many grieving people experience a second loss when friends stop checking in; not because they don't care, but because they don't know what to say. Learn why this happens, why it hurts so deeply, and how to navigate the loneliness that often follows.
Why Grief Feels Lonely Even When You’re Surrounded by People
Have you ever felt completely alone in your grief even while surrounded by people who care about you? Emotional loneliness is one of the most common yet least talked about parts of grief. Learn why it happens and how finding the right support can help you feel less alone.
The Unspoken Bond: Navigating the Silence of Father’s Day Grief
Father’s Day often carries a quiet, unspoken weight for those in grief. Whether you are missing a father’s steady presence or honoring the memory of a child, let’s explore how to navigate the silence of this day with compassion, gentleness, and the 'Dual Process' of grief.
Bracing for the Day: Navigating the Week Before Father’s Day
The lead-up to Father’s Day often brings a unique pressure to be 'the rock.' If you are grieving a father or a child, let's explore how to navigate the anticipatory grief of this week and redefine what strength really looks like.